Due to the communication and discussions on how to achieve Coast Guard obligations, challenges were met with flexibility and “out of the box” solutions. I often found myself drilling late at night, weekdays or even with other offices to support operations. This may not be an option for everyone, but having that conversation is the first step. The last thing I wanted was for my civilian boss (or the Coast Guard) to think I didn’t want to show up. As compromises were made professionally, I remained a husband and father of two children. Looking back, I’m not sure how I juggled my responsibilities. My wife, like many of our spouses, was an absolute trooper. She knew when to stress family priorities and when to support my work obligations. I want to say I always put family first, but throughout the many stages of my career, sometimes family took a back seat to late nights, temporary duty, mobilizations and deployments. I am currently on my sixth set of long-term mobilization orders. Again, I want to say they get easier, but each one seems to have its own set of challenges. I’ve missed birthdays, anniversaries, weddings and funerals. The comradery amongst colleagues and the love of the mission made the time away from home tolerable. As I find myself around first-time deployers, I provide two pieces of advice: 1) The first two weeks away from friends and family are the hardest for the transition – keep yourself busy and establish a sustainable battle rhythm. Find time to work out and establish a regular communication plan with family. 2) If/when you take leave and return home mid-tour, your family will want to monopolize your every waking minute. Your spouse or significant other might have a list of things waiting for you to do. Remember, your family has probably established a routine in your absence, and you might be interrupting it. Your “wants” and your family’s “wants” might be in conflict – causing stress or aggravation. What is the solution? This may not work for everyone, but what worked for me was to have an honest conversation with my wife about how I felt which led to the conversation on how she felt on me leaving again. After experiencing this dynamic during my first deployment, my wife and I were better armed to have open conversations on other deployment challenges. Despite being separated from your civilian employer and family, deployments can be extremely rewarding. The lifelong friendships, experiences gained, and job satisfaction are immeasurable. Final note: If you look for what is wrong or irritating during your deployment (or any job), you will find it. If you look for the silver lining (e.g., pay, education, cultural immersion), you will find that too. So, focus on the good. I have been honored to serve in the Coast Guard Reserve. The friends I have made, the talented colleagues I have worked with, and adventures experienced were never expected. Semper Paratus! . Chief Warrant Officer Oake with his family outside of PATFORSWA building prior to them volunteer to serve at Naval Support Activity Bahrain’s galley for Thanksgiving lunch. Chief Warrant Officer Jonathan Oakes participates in joint force protection efforts in the Red Sea. SPRING 2024 — 19
